Reasons not to…

I’ve been thinking of this for a long time now and every single time I’ve been reaching the same conclusion.

As much as we’d like to do what we want, when we want and how we want ALL of the time, we are restricted by the rules that govern us. Rules such as time, money, circumstances and the system.

Even though, we abide by these rules for many reasons (some of them obvious), at what point do we draw the line between personal happiness and do the things we HAVE to do versus the things we WANT to do. At what point in time do we have complete happiness in what we do. I’ve started noticing that happiness lies within the chosen balance in which you have in your life…

For me, personally, I am a perfectionist. So very rarely did I feel a sense of complete balance in my own life. At the times that I did, it never lasted very long. It always seemed to be a tossup between the most important things in my life: work, my label, and family/friends/men. When one was going great, i had the other one in the back of my mind and just dreading every bit of how it made me feel.

So what do I do to create this balance….? And why do the obvious and most apparent reasons always seem so difficult. Why do I find every reason not to do the things that need to be done?

Take our jobs for example. We have every reason not to stay in a job that is unfulfilling, unrewarding and does not in any way portray the true worth of who we are (judging by your salary!) yet we stay.

We stay in relationships when there is every sign not to. We somehow manage to justify, in our heads that him making us feel good for just one day can override the other 6 days in a week he made us feel like shit.

We see reason not to speak up for what we believe in and continue to do the things we firmly believe is not right.

We make it “ok” by saying: “IF I was richer, IF I was in charge, IF I didn’t have family/kids/obligations….” The list goes on.

But where does it all stop. At what stage do we make the decision to be completely happy in what we have, what we do and even more so what we believe in? At what stage does it become “acceptable” to go against what you were taught to believe in and start going with the things you believes in.

The only limits we have in life are the limits set upon us by ourselves. The only limits that hold us back are the limits put onto us by other people (and that we were taught to believe).

The terms I hear people say all too often and which I dislike so much are “let’s hope”, “I wish” and “go with the flow”. To me that’s like leaving your car keys in your ignition and “hoping” they won’t steal your car!

I can’t speak for all of ya’ll but I do feel safe in speaking to the masses when I ask the question…. Why do so many of us leave the keys in the ignition and “hope” our car won’t get stolen. In the very same way, we have learnt to take proper steps to avoid disaster of our car being stolen, why we not take the necessary steps in other sectors of our lives. In extreme cases, why do some of us choose not to drive our own car and not even take that risk/responsibility of looking after your own car? Yes, I could go on about this damn car which is a whole other topic on its own.

But why do we not take control of our own lives, why do we do the things we do, why do we procrastinate ALL the time, and most importantly, why do we believe in other people more than we believe in ourselves???

For me, it’s not that simple. But thinking about it, it’s not that hard either! For me, I think my resistance and utter dislike to change and “surprises” bothers me.

“Our biggest fear is not that we will fail, but that our success will be beyond fathomable”